“I just want you to know, if you ever need anything, don’t be shy, okay? There are NO rules in the house. I’m not like a regular mom, I’m a cool mom.”
“Can I get you guys anything? Some snacks? A condom? Let me know! Oh, God, love ya!”
“What kind of a mother do you think I am? Why, do you want a little bit? Because if you’re gonna drink, I’d rather you do it in the house.”
“Hey, hey, hey! How are my favorite girlfriends?”
“I’m not a regular mom, I’m a cool mom”
Do these five italicised lines look or sound familiar to you? If you say they come from the 2004 movie Mean Girls, you are right. But if anyone of you not just say it is from a film but also sound like something you see or hear in real life, you have come across the cool (I mean ‘cool’) parents who allow their children (I mean underaged children between the pre-teen and teen categories) to do whatever pleases them just to make them feel and look more grown-up than their peers in school or try to be their children’s best friends. It may sound like something a few kids would wish that could happen all because they want to look cooler or more grown-up than their fellow schoolmates, unfortunately, I have say having ‘cool’ parents is never all that cool. Not one bit when they are more of a bane and an embarrassment.
Call me old-fashioned but the idea of a ‘cool’ mum allowing her daughter in the pre-teen or teen (early or mid) stage to sport skimpy outfits or racy underwear just makes me cringe. And the occasional ‘horror’ stories of ‘cool’ mums allowing their children to imitate and watch trashy pop music videos, allowing their children to watch and read porn-related or raunchy materials, offering condoms upon finding their children bonking a boyfriend or girlfriend under the family roof, or offering alcoholic drinks and/or drugs to her children and her children’s friends (If you are wondering what kind of children I am talking about, I am referring to underaged kids, as in those below 18 years of age. So, don’t get the wrong idea). This is not just ‘cool’ mums doing it, even ‘cool’ dads as well. This is not cool parenting at all but actually irresponsible parenting. If you think that overstrict parents and pushy stage/pageant parents are the worst parents on this planet, ‘cool’ parents do fit in the same boat as them. Seriously, those parents have something in common: creating a path to ruin for their children.
All children need are someone to set the boundaries in everyday life as well as teaching them from right to wrong and raising them with common sense. They do not need ‘cool’ parents who act like friends who allow them to make stupid decisions which would only leave them in regret later on. Parents are supposed to be good role models and mentors not ‘best friends’ who say it is acceptable to allow early sexualisation of their children under the family roof minus the beauty pageants. Parents also need to know they are raising kids not mini-adults.
Anyway (I may get shot down for talking about the issue of ‘cool’ parents), what says you about this? Do you happen to know a parent or someone’s parent who acts this way (use pseudonyms please!)? Your opinions are welcomed.