Yesterday, an article from Malaysia’s The Star caught my attention about a woman coming forward and lodging a rape report after 18 years. If you are shocked and disgusted to read the perpetrator of that horrible crime is the woman’s uncle, I can assure you that you are not only ones.
As many crime experts would tell us that rape and sexual abuse are more often committed by people the victims know, I cannot help but agree as time and again, rape and sexual abuse cases committed by family members are not as rare as most people think. If the Joseph Fritzl case from Austria or the fictional character Precious (from the novel Push by Sapphire but turned into a movie) springs to mind, well, sexual related crimes can be committed not just by fathers but also by any other male family members. Unfortunately, it is becoming more rampant than we expected.
If you think the Malaysian case is the only thing that recently happened, try reading this case reported by The Bristol Evening Post about a young woman testifying in court about being repeatedly raped by her own brother who was supposed to respect and protect her as a child. As a blogger, I can only describe her brother as a monster who robbed his sister her childhood and her innocence. For all the things he did against her, he will have to answer to God for what he done. That goes the same for the two Hong Kong brothers who were jailed around 2010 for raping their sister and sexually assaulting their nieces according to the article. Personally (I am going to be shot for saying it but who cares), I believe those those monsters mentioned in this blog are better off rotting in jail for life and better off dead (I am sorry to say this but what they did to their family members definitely left my blood boiling over what they did to them) for what they have done to their victims especially when they suffered as children.
What says you about the issue of rape and sexual abuse committed by family members against their own daughters, nieces and sisters? Do you believe these sort of monsters are better off being meted out harsher punishments by the law for their disgusting deeds? If you are in a situation where you come across a female family member (daughter, sister, niece, grandchild or even a cousin) who is sexually abused by a male family member, what would you do? Opinions are welcomed.
This is a very serious case. And yes, being raped by ones own family is probably worse, because they are the ones who are meant to protect you. However, in the end you can not simply punish them more than other people who are not family/friends, because the deed is horrible not matter who does it, and we are not to judge whether it is worse in one scenario than the other.
And yes, I do not agree with the fact you say these people are better off dead! Who are we to judge who deserves to live or to die? We don’t know what really happened! And these people can change? And who says that a person committing this crime has more right to die than a person who has robbed a hundred times for example?
As you said quite rightly, in the end he and we all will have to answer to God for all the good and the bad we have done.
We human beings don’t know and don’t see and hear all to be able to righteously judge! The best we can do is putting these people in jail to keep them away from their victims in society. Perhaps help them rehabilitate if that is even possible. And of course offer all the psychological and physical help to the victims.
I am a victim of sexual assault from a family member (I actually happen to be male).
Just today, after months of wringling, I finally got a final order for an AVO (apprehension violence order) on my perpertrator!
This happened for many years and I could say at least 9 years from memory (I am now 25 years old)!
It is an indefinite ban from seeing me ever again, but I feel this is not enough! I have since developed haemorrhoids, dropped out of Uni and left unemployed.
There is nothing more I would love to see from this guy except for him to rot in a jail cell for what he did, or better still, die a slow, horrible death or at least have his p**** cut off!
Awful human being!
Kyle, I may not know you but I am terribly sorry to read what you had been subjected to in the hands of the person who was supposed to respect you. I am sorry to read that you were robbed of your innocence and how this abuse affect you. However, all I can say is that someday your abuser will get his punishment. It won’t be today or now but perhaps in a future when we least expect it. But if he doesn’t get his punishment here on this earth and carry on denying his wrongdoing until his last breath, he will have to face judgement from his Creator whether he likes it or not. I know it is easier said than done but sometimes living to the fullest and being surrounded with supportive and loving people is the best revenge in life against the person who took away your innocence. You can make a difference by warning others and telling people about your experience, especially young children, to stay away from your abuser, from what you might be trying to tell me, did not end up going to prison. Kyle, stay strong.